Hanging on to the Past

Dear Sisters,

My husband and I are separated, but it is not my choice. I still love my husband. Because of this, I have issues with other guys. Give me your insight on moving on.

Jena: This question is really difficult to answer without knowing the full scope of the situation. However, regardless of the situation I would strongly recommend taking the steps to bring closure or reconciliation to the current relationship—the marriage—before even attempting to develop other relationships. My guess is that one of the largest issues you have in new relationships would certainly have to be that you have not dealt with the current relationship.

Michele: Give yourself a little time. You know time really does heal all wounds. You don't need a man around for that.

Elana: I think you should examine why you are having such a hard time dealing with this, then perhaps you will be able to move on. Consider seeking the services of a counselor or clergy in help you to examine the why.