A Tale of Two Men

Dear Sisters,

I have two male friends. One of them talks as if he could be very generous. He is an attractive man who is 19 years older than me. The other freely admits to being a tightwad. He is also attractive and four years my junior. I am attracted more to the tightwad. What should I do?

Jena: There is some missing information here. I hate to admit to this, but the first thought that came to my mind had to do with virility of the older gentleman. My guess is that these two men are on two opposite spectrums in this area and that may have a little to do with why you are more attracted to the younger one. If that area is important to you--and it is not for everyone--then I would not settle for less. It might come back to haunt you in a couple of years. But truly, you should be looking at so very much more than these two criteria--you don't mention their heart or character.

Michele: Silly me, I would have to go with the tightwad.

Elana: It seems that you are more attracted to the younger one whom is a tightwad, and this is a problem for you. My suggestion is to find someone whom you are attracted to who is not a tightwad.

Infatuated With Cassonova

Dear Sisters,

I am absolutely infatuated with this man. He is smart, funny, interesting, nice-looking and just plain old sexy. He's not married, but he admits he has this lady friend that he has been seeing off and on for about a year. I know that to get involved with him is risky business but I really, really like this man. What should I do?

Jena: As long as I have been without a man, I am just the wrong one to ask. No one knows your heart more than you do. But as a word of warning, I would ask yourself if you would ever really be able to trust him if things went in your favor? It appears he was honest enough to tell you, but it sounds like he has a cheating heart.

Michele: I don't know what to tell ya Missy. How are the pickings in your neck of the woods? Laugh. We have all done this stupid thing before, so who are we to keep you from your fun? If he truly makes you laugh, I'd give it a whirl. But first, I personally would ask if the lady friend has a gun.

Elana: Girl, go for it! You only live once. How often do you meet a man that you really, really like? But first, I would ask about that gun.

Crowded in My Bed

Dear Sisters,

I am a single mother of a son who is 10, and he will not sleep in his room alone. Yep, you guessed right; he sleeps in my bed. What am I to do?

Jena: Well, in light of what we have seen with Michael Jackson, I would do something in a hurry. On a serious note, I am really not sure what you should do. You have obviously neglected to do something that should have been done years ago. However at this point, I would consult my pediatrician before doing anything.

Michele: I suggest that you try moving into his room and sleeping in his bed. Even try taking over his room—his television, games, toys and all. That will do it.

Elana: Kick him out, and let him know it is a part of growing up.