Fantasizing About Grass On Other Side of Fence

Dear Sisters,

I have been married for almost a year and realize that I have made a horrible mistake. I am in love with the man I dated before I met my husband. He doesn't know it and is about to get married. I really want to tell him how I feel but I do not want to hurt my husband. I am so confused.

Jena: Tell me if I have this picture right or not. You have been fantasizing about this chap while laying in bed next to this guy who has promised to be there for you through thick and thin, for better or worse, until one of you checks out permanently. I agree that you are confused. Get over it or get out of it. And, I wouldn’t count on your ex having a change of heart about who he loves.

Michele: Well dear, it sounds as if your ex- must be in love with someone else—being that he’s getting married. So, “Is your husband in love with you?” Girl, you could really be out in the cold.

Elena: You messed up, so deal with it and move on. Its too late to fix this. He has found someone else, ok… Next time don’t be so slow—you snooze, you lose.

“TP” (Our Guy): Even if you tell your ex how you feel, that doesn’t mean he feels the same. My gut tells me you have some love for your husband or you wouldn’t have married him and you wouldn’t care if you hurt him. So work on your marriage!

Lonely in His Neck of the Woods

Dear Sisters: I am a 35-year old man and I desperately want a wife, but there are simply no good women left. I meet a lot of women but all they want is my money and sex. Most of them don't even watch the news and cannot even hold a decent conversation. Where should I look? And, don't tell me to go to church because all the good ones are married and the single ones are looking for, well you know. Its the same in the supermarket.

Jena: Sounds like you’re looking too hard. Good things come to those who wait.

Michele: You got me! You’re asking the wrong sista.

Elena: The way you speak of all “women,” I think you should consider going to a gay bar.

“TP” (Our Guy): I am a 51-year old man who not so long ago found the love of my life—online by the way. So be patient and before you know it she will be there.

Sassy at Wimbledon

Dear Sisters:

Why does Venus Williams insist upon wearing those awful tennis outfits? And, why doesn't she fix her hair? She and Serena are so very different? Venus is more like her parents and Serena is more refined.

Jena: Awful. Fix. Refined. Like. All of these words deal with conforming to a standard. Venus is one of the most successful young women in the world. She’s strong, confident, capable, articulate, gracious, passionate and successful. I wouldn’t change a thing about this young lady. I certainly wouldn’t quibble over fashion and coiffure.

Michele: I don’t follow tennis, so I haven’t really noticed what they wear. But I suppose maybe Venus wears what is comfortable to her—like my nice little workout pants are good for me although I don’t work out. And maybe she doesn’t fix her hair because she’ll only sweat out that expensive hairdo. That kinda would defeat the purpose, hmmm.

Elena: I think Venus is comfortable within herself. She has proven herself and it has nothing to do with how she appears to us fashion-wise.

TP (Our Guy): I see nothing wrong with what Venus wears. She designs her own tennis clothes and feels she looks good in them. I have not seen much of Venus off the court, but I'm sure she wears it the way she feels comfortable.